There’s a band called Nada Surf who had a couple of radio hits in the 90’s, including “Popular” that you may still hear once in a while on the radio or on some 90’s alternative rock playlist on Spotify. They kept soldiering on, though, and in 2004 released an album called “The Weight Is a Gift.” The weight is a…Read More
Being grown-up and acting like a grown-up are two very different things. As you begin to mature into an adult, you start to feel like you’ve figured everything out, whether you actually have or not. It isn’t easy to be a mature man. Take it from a guy who is still trying to fully figure it out. But I’ve experienced quite a bit on my journey to adulthood. Along the way I’ve picked up some insight into what separates a mature man from just a grown-up boy. Here are some tips on how to be a mature man…Read More
We’ve discussed this before on the site, but it’s worth mentioning again and again: Our life is just a series of choices. Even not choosing is a choice. When we choose one thing, we miss out on others. That’s a fact of life.
But there’s a way to view a choice we’ve made as not simply a loss of other options. Thinking like that’s going to leave you on the fence, hesitating and wondering and blaming yourself for not making the “right” or “best” choice. This might happen in your choice of college (it’s not prestigious enough, it’s not enough of a party school, it’s not serious enough academically), choice of girlfriend (her butt’s too big, her butt’s too small, she’s too nice, she’s too self-centered, she’s too _____ or not enough ____), or choice of job once you graduate from high school or college. But what if there is no “right” choice?Read More
Our good old friend William James, esteemed Harvard psychologist from the 1800s and early 1900s, drops some essential truth here about life. I think Brant Bjork and him would have gotten along pretty well if they had lunch together, because he’s basically saying the same thing as Bjork does in “Blue Demon”: “I am often confronted…Read More
Recently I came across my varsity basketball team photo hanging in the hallway of my old high school. Looking at my cocky, 18-year-old self with medals draped around his neck, I thought about how blind and sheltered I’d been.
Like most young men at that age about to graduate from high school, I thought I had it all figured out. I was destined to be successful and have all the “important” things in life. I was athletic, spent my time with the “popular” kids, and had all the attention I could want from girls. What I didn’t realize was that I was chasing the wrong things.Read More
Many of us have been socialized to think we can’t ever show weakness. This includes going to the doctor to make sure we’re healthy. Don’t be a dumbass…Read More
I’ve had a lot on my plate recently, with IB classes and SATs and ACTs and College applications. I don’t feel like I won’t make it through, but I just feel a lot of niggling annoyance in the back of my head that seems to feed on my motivation and my desire to excel, and…Read More